1. If marriage exists only as a romantic relationship that can be ended at will, and family exists only by virtue of bonds of affection, both marriage and family come second to the search for love.
    如果婚姻仅是一种可随意终止的浪漫关系，如果家庭仅由感情来维系，那么婚姻和家庭与追求爱情相比就只能退居其次了。

2. If I love you, I can see you as a separate person, with your own values and thoughts and feelings,
    爱一个人，就是将其视作一个独立的人，有自己的价值观、思想和感情。

3. If I love you, I respond to most of your major needs as a person.
    爱一个人，就要对他作为独立个体的需求做出回应。

4. If I love you, I trust that you will accept my caring and my love and that you won't deliberately hurt me.
    爱一个人，就要相信他会接受我的关心，接受我的爱，相信他不会故意伤害我；

5. I trust that you will find me attractive, and that you won't abandon me; I trust the mutual nature of our love.
    相信自己对他有吸引力，相信他不会抛弃我；相信爱是相互的。

6. In a love relationship there are times when I am bored, times when I may feel like giving up, times of real strain, and times I feel I can't move forward.
    爱人之间也会有时感到厌烦，有时想放弃，有时感到压力，有时感到羁绊。

7. In other words, love comes into an imperfect world to make it possible to live.
    换言之，是爱使我们能够在这不完美的世界上生活下去。

8. If I love you, I encourage you to reach out and develop other relationships.
    爱一个人，就要鼓励其与他人建立联系。

9. It is a false love that cements one person to another in such a way that he or she is not given room to grow.
    两个人密不可分，再无其他发展的余地，这样的爱是不真实、不明智的。

10. I can only love you if I genuinely love, value, appreciate, and respect myself.
    只有真正自爱自重、自赏自尊，才能爱别人。